6 Things Confident Women Do DifferentlyMindthriller
We all know that one woman who wows everyone—take a page out of her lesson book
As a female businesswoman, I can tell you that stepping out there and going after your financial dreams is not for the faint of heart. It requires daring, chutzpah, guts, strength of character and, above all else, the ability to laugh (sometimes at yourself).
In other words, it takes a massive amount of confidence. Let’s face it: If you believe in your own skills and ability to succeed, you’re more likely to take action on things that might seem scary, like embarking on a new path, working toward financial freedom and investing in your future. Those who aren’t confident stay stuck in a place they don’t like and accept the fact that nothing will ever change because they are too wrapped up in their fear.
So, let’s explore common habits I’ve observed in confident women. You know the saying “fake it til you make it?” If you start doing even just one of the following, it’ll create a domino effect that leads to the others—and soon you won’t be faking it at all!
Being True to Themselves
As women, we get so caught up playing so many roles for so many people in our lives, that we often lose track of who we really are and what we want. How do you know when you are being true to you? You can tell because the magic happens. Things just seem to flow effortlessly. You are suddenly “in the right place at the right time” and enjoying life. When you make choices that resonate with your values, talents, instincts and passion, you’re on the right path and that’s incredibly empowering. That’s when you’re living your truth.
Savoring Alone Time
Confident women know that time spent alone, doing activities they love, is time well spent. Whether it’s going to the movies, taking a bubble bath, going for a jog or meditating, quiet moments spent doing positive activities help you stay true to your purpose. You have my permission to make yourself a priority.
Not Taking Things Personally
A confident woman knows that business is business, and sometimes that territory comes with criticism, missed opportunities or failure. Oftentimes, you cannot control a situation—such as missing the mark during a presentation—but you can always control how you choose to react to it. Instead of feeling a blow to your ego, choose to love yourself and forgive yourself. And move forward.
Practicing Positive Rituals
If you’ve found a ritual that helps keep you calm before a stressful situation or gets you revved up before a big moment, stick with it. For instance, I journal when I’m looking for an answer. It’s a type of meditation for me. I may have a question I’m struggling with or something I’m upset about. So I open my journal, state the issue in writing and then just write. I don’t allow myself to analyze, question or filter what I write. I just write down every thought that pops into my mind. And then I keep writing until I get the answer. Works every time.
Asking Empowering Questions
Asking questions isn’t a sign of weakness – I’d argue thinking you know everything is. But the kinds of questions you’re asking is what showcases confidence. For instance, instead of asking dis empowering questions like, “Why does this always happen to me?” ask, “What can I feel grateful for?” That shift in mindset allows for the confidence required to solve the problem.
Isn’t it interesting how hard it can be to say this two-letter word? But not to confident women—they not only realize that saying no is healthy, but also they have the self-esteem to firmly say so. When it’s time to say no, confident people avoid ambiguous phrases like “I’ll have to get back to you” or “I’m not sure” to try and appease the requestor. They confidently say no because it allows them to focus on honoring their existing commitments, which, in turn, gives them the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
If you put these six habits into practice, your newfound confidence will shift the way others see you, but more importantly it will shift the way you see yourself. Confidence is contagious—each confident action you take will lead to another—and that’s when the magic happens.