FEELING INFERIOR? YOU CONSENTED TO THAT.Mindthriller
If you are uncertain about your Self worth, if you believe in peoples’ assessment of yourself, you have given them consent to make you feel the way they perceive you. However, you do have the power to reject the notion. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. By “Your consent” I mean your acceptance of what people feel, say and think about you.
Sometimes, you feel sad. So sad that you feel you are worthless and do not matter anymore. Maybe because:
- There is a big gap between your goals and your progress in life
- You are unable to match the productivity and efficiency levels of people around you
- Growing up, you were neglected, abused or always ignored by your parents
- As a child, you were made to believe that you are less worthy because you are from a certain race, certain religion, certain nationality or you have a cultural cringe
- You are always criticized, unaccepted, humiliated anywhere you find yourself
- You believe that your physical looks such as being short, tall, ugly, handicapped, physically challenged makes you undesirable and less attractive.
- You come from a lower social class than that of your peers
All these can only harm you if you allow it to influence what you think and feel about yourself. The way you feel is a matter of choice and not compulsion. No one has the power to control the way you feel unless you surrender that power to someone yourself. The feelings of inferiority depend not just on external influences but, to a large extent, on your psychological makeup.
The thing about self worth is the way you feel about yourself; the sort of person you conceive yourself to be. That feeling resides in you and surfaces at every situation you find yourself. For instance, a person may feel inferior to her friends if she considers herself to be less attractive and less smart than them. On the other hand, a person may feel superior to her friends if she considers herself to be more attractive or smarter than them. The key thing in both situations is that each of these persons decides on how they want to feel. In reality, how intelligent, how smart, how attractive, how beautiful someone is are both subjective and dynamic. People can consciously change their conditions.
The only person who can prove your Self worth is You. Accept who you are- completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit not because you think someone else wants you to be different. Believe in your worth as a human being. Believe that you can do things, and use the evidence of the things you have done to bolster that belief.
Marthin Luther King, Jr while talking about life blueprint in one of his motivational videos titled: If you can’t walk, then craw. He said and I quote: The NO1. thing that should be in your life’s blue print is having a deep belief in your own dignity, in your own worth, and in your own somebodiness. Don’t allow any body to make you feel that you are nobody. Always feel that you count, always feel that you have self worth, and always feel that your life has ultimate significance.
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On final note, feeling inferior is a factor of your belief about your Self worth and your decision to accept people’s assessment of you. If you decide to shun all negative vibes and embrace Positive vibes, you will sure boost your self esteem.
Always be confident in You!
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